Thursday, November 15, 2012

This Post is All Over the Place.

Sometimes we generalize people. Sometimes it is easier to find comfort in not agreeing with them if we can group all those that contradict our beliefs into an easy package with an oversimplified label.
We are all guilty of this in one way or another. Sometimes we generalize out of fear. Other times it is because we do not understand others or do not want to understand them.  I will admit I have spent most of my time since the election in a state of incredulousness. I really cannot believe the results and I am anxious about the future of this nation and my family’s future as practicing Catholics in this nation. I am overwhelmed by the hate and negativity I am seeing from people that voted for the winning candidate. I am overwhelmed by the hate and negativity from those that voted against the winning candidate. I am overwhelmed by the sheer number of registered and unregistered voters that chose not to vote in this election, which was perhaps one of the most important elections of our time.
This week, I have been focused on combating my state of incredulousness. My children are the greatest distraction, but I have also rediscovered my sense of awe in all that women are capable of accomplishing. I wanted to share a few examples with you.
1.       The post “I’ve startedtelling my daughters I’m beautiful” was recently passed along to me.  It made me smile. I did not look at other posts by this individual, and I really do not care if I agree with everything she has to say in life, because I have yet to meet a person with whom I do agree with 100%. Her post is spot on, regardless. There is a renewed sense of confidence that every mother experiences when she begins to look at herself from the eyes of her child. My children are impressed with me always and sometimes I forget that. They love me the same before I have showered as they do after.  They have love in their eyes when they look at me always, and as if I needed a reason to love myself the same way, my children are definitely that reason.
2.       Last night, I shared the post “The Bombshell” with the Cathofeminism Facebook community. While words cannot describe receiving this kind of news, I am just in awe at the raw honesty in which the author was able to write. The pro-life community is mocked often for the imagined lack of care for those that have been born. There is often a perception that those who are against abortion see everything through the Miraculous Rose Colored Lenses that prevent you from having to experience reality. To paraphrase Nate Ruess: Woman, you won’t believe, the most amazing things, they can come from some terrible, awful experiences.
These are just two examples of inspiration. Now that the election is over, I am returning to my main focus. The only way we will lift ourselves out of the atrocities and injustices of this world is if we focus on one another. Parents: raise your children to be contributing members of society. Enjoy the sunshine and rainy days. Look at yourselves through the eyes of your children and see how amazing you are! Is that too frou-frou for you? Yeah I sort of want to gag also, but it is still true. 

1 comment:

  1. I wish I had been able to do that. :) I only saw myself through my father's comments and his distorted view, and it has taken me decades to realize that I am worthy of more. But I am glad that I didn't pass that to my children, who are all very confident and strong.


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